The Loss.

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What is the biggest loss you bear once you go through a difficult situation?

This is a question I have been asking myself for a few months now. In order to get the answer, I looked not only at myself, but at a number of people around who have faced situations unimaginable to themselves. What I realized was the fact, that very few of us have the courage to end the pain. We like to torture ourselves, to re-visit the mistakes of the past and to blame ourselves constantly for everything which is wrong, but that, I believe, is human nature, blaming is. You may blame yourself or someone else, but it is in our nature to find out whose fault was it. With all this crap about situation, blaming and where do I stand after a bad situation, I went back to the question I started with. The answer was simple. The biggest loss, after any situation, is the loss of SELF. Every time you go through a trauma, you lose a part of yourself you are never getting back, and this change is gradual, you’ll never know its happening, you may behave like a rock for a while, but too many shocks and you will be gone. I may sound like a hopeless git here, but the truth is that, this is what I have seen, not just in myself but in people around me. I lost a part of myself I priced most and there is no going back. I cannot be the same person anymore, no matter how hard I try and the truth is that I do not feel like going back to being that person, even if I miss that person inside me. Some would say that the change is for the better and that this is probably a better version of my old-self but I know myself, and I know that this is not a better version, at least not by the parameters I set for myself.

Bottom-line: After an undesirable situation, if there is something or some one you need to cry for, that would be you. Realize that your old self is dead, hold a funeral, leave some flowers and move on, because that’s the only choice you have.


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Daily Post: Take That, Rosetta!

If you could wake up tomorrow and be fluent in any language you don’t currently speak, which would it be? Why? What’s the first thing you do with your new linguistic skills?

Even though I personally have always ever wanted to learn French, but since it won’t be of any use to me in Pakistan, the language I would want to learn miraculously is, Pushto, it is the language of one of our province, i.e. KPK, and it sounds a lot like French, and also that it will come really handy in a metropolitan city like Karachi where people in the down town markets are mostly Pushto speaking. So I would quite like to learn it, Yeah.. 🙂

What I Don’t Want To Be.

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In our world today, we often ask children, as to what they want to become when they grow up and each kid expresses his or her desire to be a teacher, doctor, engineer, or whatever they find impressive at that tender age. However, as the time passes and that child becomes capable of understanding the prospects of the profession, he or she chooses that path for himself. Along with this type of career selection, we often have ideals, in the sense that those are the people we find perfect and feel the need to be more like them,in order to become good humans. But what I have realised in the past few months is that to be a good human, we do not only require the positive ideals, in fact, I find that those people are equally important which are particularly nasty to us, and we don’t like them at all. I have observed in the past few months, and in my daily life too that, there are some people who are constantly at a watch to make our life miserable, it is not that they have nothing better to do, NO, from what I have gathered, it is their routine to do so, and only those who play mean with them can tackle them. So I think that it is also important for us to know what we do not want to be, because even with Merida, she was told NOT to do a lot of stuff in order to become an ideal princess, and as far I remember, she was not once reminded as to what she was supposed to do.. 😉tumblr_mknca4S5f71rg5086o1_500

Learning to Learn.

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Daily Prompt: Teachable Moment

You have to learn a new skill. Do you prefer to read about it, watch someone else do it, hear someone describe it, or try it yourself?

You have to learn a new skill. Do you prefer to read about it, watch someone else do it, hear someone describe it, or try it yourself?
The question is, yet again about learning a skill. The answer simply is that it depends on the skill itself, swimming was one thing I started to learn as a child from my father, he gave me the demonstration, explained how to do it and also asked me to give it a shot in the pool but nothing made me learn that thing even after months and months of practice, though I didn’t read anything about it at that time and I am not even sure if it would have been an interesting read. 😉Young Girl Swimming with Water Wings
Moving on to the skill of my major subject it is something that I can only learn after all the above given methods have been properly implied, but in a different order, first description, second reading, third demonstration and the last one is to do it myself.
But learning also depends on how good the teacher is and how much interest I have in the subject, because I never learned to stitch even after a lot of practice, nor was I able to learn to swim, not that I care much about stitching though.. 😀